Coital imperative
The coital imperative is the idea or belief that penile–vaginal intercourse (PIV) is the defining practice in a sexual relationship. It's often taken for granted that intercourse is the primary, natural, and most desirable form of sexual activity, particularly within heterosexual sex.[1][2] This idea makes anything else erotically charged is expected to be “preliminary foreplay” or a fun bonus rather than sex in itself.[3]
While the coital imperative is widely held, there are growing calls to challenge it by promoting noncoital sexual practices as valid and enjoyable options, largely due to the normalization of modern sex education.[4]
Difference between "sex" and "coitus"
[edit]Historically, the terms sex and coitus have been misused as if they were synonymous. Coitus is one of the many practices that can occur in a sex relationship (in addition to fondling, kissing, mutual masturbation, and oral sex) in which the penis is inserted into the vagina or anus. This confusion between the terms has led to practices in which penetration is not involved being denied the name and status of sex or to them not being considered a means of achieving pleasure or orgasm. The term has also been linked to the concept of phallocentrism—that is, the reduction of the male body to the penis— by minimizing other sensitive and pleasure zones and emotionality, attributes necessary for harmonious relationships within a couple.[5]
Researchers often use the term sex to refer to penile-vaginal intercourse, while using specific words for other sexual behaviors. Scholars Richard M. Lerner and Laurence Steinberg state that researchers also "rarely reveal" how they conceptualize sex "or even whether they have resolved potential discrepancies" in conceptualizations of sex, and attribute researchers' focus on penile-vaginal sex to "the larger culture's preoccupation with this form of sexual activity." This focus may also relegate other forms of mutual sexual activity to mislabeled foreplay or contribute to their failure to be considered "real sex," and limits the meaning of rape.[6] It may also be that the conceptual conflation of sexual activity with vaginal intercourse and sexual function hinders and limits reporting on sexual behavior that non-heterosexual people can have, or reporting on heterosexuals who may engage in non-vaginal sexual activity.[7]
In religion
[edit]This belief is deeply rooted in all cultures of society and is often intertwined with traditional gender roles and expectations about relationships and sexuality.[2] For example, in the West, the Judeo-Christian tradition has been linked to the coital imperative. According to this tradition, sex is valid only within marriage and becomes a means of expressing intimate feelings, assuming responsibilities, and, above all, reproducing the species.[2]
Effects
[edit]The coital imperative of mixed-sex couples has often been credited as a major contributor to the orgasm gap; multiple studies on sexual behavior and attitudes have concluded that many of these couples prioritize penetration and the men's satisfaction (since women lack vaginal sensitivity), suggesting that this is a social and cultural issue.[8]
See also
[edit]References
[edit]- ^ "Defining (Hetero)Sex: How imperative is the "coital imperative"?". Science Direct. Retrieved 2025-05-04.
- ^ a b c "Coital imperative (discourse)". seksediversiteit.nl. 2024-01-05. Retrieved 2025-05-04.
- ^ ""Sexual Dysfunction" and the Coital Imperative". Sexual Health Alliance. 2023-01-27. Retrieved 2025-05-04.
- ^ "Is the Coital Imperative Really Imperative? An Exploratory Study of the Experience of Individuals in Heterosexual Relationships who have been Unable to Have Penile-Vaginal Intercourse". ProQuest. April 2017. Retrieved 2025-05-04.
- ^ GALDEANO ARAMENDÍA, Jesus. (Pres) La vida en pareja. Evolución y problemática actual. San Esteban Editorial, 01/01/1995 page 244 Vista previa en Google Books
- ^ Handbook of Adolescent Psychology. John Wiley & Sons. 2004. pp. 193–196. ISBN 978-0-471-69044-3.
When researchers use the term sex, they nearly always mean sexual intercourse – more specifically, penile–vaginal intercourse... The widespread, unquestioned equation of penile–vaginal intercourse with sex reflects a failure to examine systematically 'whether the respondent's understanding of the question matches what the researcher had in mind.'
- ^ "Measuring Sexual Quality of Life: Ten Recommendations for Health Psychologists". Handbook of Health Psychology (2nd ed.). Psychology Press. 2012. pp. 259–260. ISBN 978-0-8058-6461-8. Retrieved May 4, 2025.
- ^ Castleman, Michael (2025-04-15). "What Explains the Large Orgasm Gap Between Men and Women?". www.psychologytoday.com. Retrieved 2025-05-04.
To most people, sex means vaginal intercourse. But the clitoris sits apart from the vagina, an inch or so above the vaginal opening.
